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  3. As if love isn’t already complicated among ‘normal’ individuals, but how immensely complicated isLOVEwith a prostitute. Love with a woman who shares her body to numerous others. There is a theme of responses on my blog: a man loves a woman who sells her body and he seeks advice. My blog consists of numerous comments by men who have expressed a deep conflict in reconciling their love/emotions with a sex worker. The responses range fromwholesome male lovers of prostitutes, whom express deep concern and understanding about the well-being of their lady-love, and then there are others, whom express hostilitytowards women-of-the-night. Why does this conflict of love with a prostitute exist? Why are men writing to my blog with confusion, burning hearts, and pain from their experience of loving a prostitute? Why can’t a prostitute simply quit her work if she truly loves another? Can it really be love if she is still sleeping with other men? How can intimacy between a prostitute and her loverbe special if she is sharing her body with other men? I attempt to answer such questions on my blog, given that other wholesome outlets are scarcely available. In Love with a Sex Worker? A Word of Caution When Seeking Advice from Outsiders and others who claim to know: Not all women who sell themselves are the same. Yes, there are similarities in certain aspects, but also great diversity in our personalities, lifestyles and upbringings. Therefore, one mustbe cautious when seeking advice from outsiders who tend to premise their arguments on the notion that all prostitutes have the same motivations, values and lifestyles –such sterotypes are invalid. Seeking any wholesome advice on being in love with a prostitute is very much prone to bias from outsiderswho have little-to-zero personal experience with such women (outsiders who’s perspectives are shaped heavily by stereotypes)– It is important to remember that just becausesomeone knows/visits prostitutes does NOT mean they got personalwith them.There are so many disgusting attitudes that exist in forums and other internet sites about prostitutes in general, which is the result of a over centuries worth of discourses aimed at reducingprostitutes into degraded stereotypes. It is very easy to dismiss a prostitute as being “soulless,” “selfish,” “lazy,” and “having no dignity” if her behaviour is upsetting to someone. This mentality is not only erroneous, but lacks any sense of empathy or broader understandings. One commenter (“Mike”) on the blog epitomizes this hateful mentality. He commented in response to a paragraph I wrote: “An escort is no different than any other human being. Yes, her lifestyle is different, but she/he is deserving of love, acknowledgement and care just as anyone else. Sadly, society still holds this view that such non-conforming groups are un-deserving of basic human dignity. Such cruel view needs to be challenged.” – Sahar “Mike’s” Response: I have to completely disagree with this view; and I say this as a hobbyist who has dated a Korean prostitute in Los Angeles. The only reason why I dated her was because I was led to believe she was going to quit her line of work and to be fair I promised to quit hobbying. I was genuine and she was filled with lies. Yes, people are deserving of love…all people who choose to be in a monogamous relationship. The reality with most women who sell their bodies is this–they are very selfish, self-centered and jealous. It is okay for them to sell their bodies 8-10 clients a day but when her boyfriend needs a release and goes to another provider (because the gf/escort won’t see him at her work place) she gets very upset. Talk about a double standard. Personally speaking, if an escort truly loves someone, she would understand her line if work would be very difficult for a man to deal with. Knowing this, true love would lead her away from her kine of work. It’s called compromise and respect. But it appears escorts simply want everything their own way and want a man to love them in the same fashion a man would love a genuinely kind and respectable woman who isn’t a prostitute. That is very very very…unreasonable in my opinion. What I found amusing, during a heated argument I told her she is a deceitful, compulsive lying, trash of a person. A whore. A prostitute. “I can’t believe that is how you think of me!” She exclaimed. Well, what am I to think of her? Classy, elegant, trustworthy, respectful? ?? She screws over a thousand men a year for money when most other women make something of themselves by working hard, going to school etc… she made a deal with the devil and when she is old and grey on her death bed…that is when it will finally hit her–OMG, I will die as a whore.” What is apparent from Mike’s response is his complete lack of understanding why the lady continued to sell herself, whyshe couldn’t just quit so easily, why she is hesitant to give up her independence, and moreover, why she doesn’t resort to working for a 70-90% reduced income at a ‘normal’ job. How does Mike rationalize this? He just reduces her to a whore, in a derogatory, stereotypical sense.Yep, according to him, that explains everything. There are many Mikes in this world, both men and women. That’s what happens when a population is constantly bombarded with hateful propaganda towards a certain group, they internalize it. Such tactics are no different than the internalized racism that is prevalent in the world today. It is the laziest form of incorrect reasoning, but what can one expect? We are not all given the liberty of pondering about the wider implications of the human experience. I thought it might be worthy to share my response to the “hobbyist” aka Mike: My Response: “One reason I wrote this blog was to complicate terms and concepts that are prevalent in society about escorts/prostitutes, such as labelling them as: selfish, lazy, whores (in the derogatory sense), etc. I wanted to show how and why these attitudes exist, and how they are constructed by whom and for what purpose. And yet your comment, which is not surprising, fails to grasp any of what I’ve tried to convey. First off, since you subscribe yourself as a’hobbyist’ I am quite sure your mentality of escorts is quite disheartening. Your comment is indicative that you are one of those people who fail to ‘read between the lines.’ You’ve taken your own experience of ‘not getting your way’ with a woman whom happens to be a sex worker, and then you make the hasty generalization that most escorts are “selfish, self-centered and jealous.” And from your experience, there is not one ounce of trying to understand the underlying issues, nor the underlying meanings of her actions, perhaps. From what you have written, it is clear that you have accepted the so-called ‘moral’ social norms within society, and thus you have ZERO comprehension of how societal norms are socially constructed (often to serve political agendas). So, let’s take a look at the typical norms that you have clearly internalized (ie: accepted as ‘righteous’ without any critical analysis). Firstly, according to you, women whom have sex with multiple men are somehow terrible ‘immoral’ people. Secondly, according to you, women whom are sex workers are apparently undeserving of love/commitment if they cannot quit their job. With your logic, you fail to realize that most women do not actively ‘choose’ this lifestyle, but rather were ‘pushed’ into it for economic factors. As hard as it is to understand, yes, a prostitute can be loyal to a man she loves whilst seeing other clients — you clearly cannot understand this. But let’s imagine if a prostitute did, in fact, enjoy some of her clients or perhaps she does NOT want to be monogamous — is she suddenly a terrible immoral person? Clearly, a woman’s sexuality that’s not ‘controlled’ is very threatening to you (which again, is not surprising, because that’s what our current society tells us). I’m glad this Korean woman is not with you, because she deserves a man who has a better understanding of the things she keeps silent. You are quite naïve to think a prostituted woman can simply just leave her work for love or that leaving her work is a requirement for love. There are lovers of prostitutes who understand the emotional conflict that prostitutes face. These decent men are patient, compassionate and understanding. Rather than reduce her to being lazy, selfish, or a ‘whore,’ decent men actually try to understand sex workers and are willing to take on an unconventional relationship for the sake of love. Yes, it can seem that many prostitutes are simply living for themselves, and thus one gets the impression that they are ‘selfish’ or perhaps ‘lazy’ because they don’t want to conform to the capitalist work ethic. But there are so many complicated factors of WHY women are doing this, WHY they cannot quit so easily, WHY they feel its better to stay in the industry and be independent, WHY women are stigmatized for living alternative lifestyles, etc. I am glad that woman left you, because clearly she deserves a man who loves her and can stay loyal to her whilst understanding that leaving her job is not so easy.” Breaking the Stereotypes: In this post,I do not mean to imply that all escorts are decent beings. Indeed there are escorts who happen to be, perhaps, selfish and heartless, but that is NOT solely because shehappens to sell herself. I’ve witnessedin other internet discussions where sometimesprostitutes, themselves, aidstereotypes such as “prostitutes are always acting” or “they are masters at faking love and emotions.” Other ideas one commonly hears is that “a prostitute will have sex with anyone for money”– a notion exists that we all apparently have NO standards when it comes to making money. These stereotypes irritate me since I am a prostitute and those ideas do not represent me at all.As mentioned previously, I never fake love or even fake orgasms.Again, not all escorts are working within the same dynamics or have the same motivations. For instance, an escort who has a pimp and has a very hardened outlook on clients will have a very different persona/lifestyle than an escort, like myself, who works part-time and doesn’t view all clients as one monolith. Even within each dynamic, diversity will exist. One must remember that good and bad exists in all walks of life. For those in love with sex workers, one should view their lover as a human first — sex work does shape one, but does not make one any less good or evil. We’ve all been in one of those situations where someone makes a casual remark about how “you can’t trust whores” or they will rationalize a woman’s behavior by simply stating “Well, she’s a whore, what can you expect.”As I have tried to illustrate in this post, this logic is flawed and dehumanizing. I wonder how people would feel when they realize how many everyday prostitutes (who did not actively choose to be in the sex industry) are living very private lives, are only having sex for love or money (survival), andstill retain common decency. ——————————————————————- My apologies thatthis post did not give much advice for those in love or having feelings for a working lady, but I recommendbrowsing the comments in my blog where I answer such questions. Below is recent advice I gave to a gentleman who asked how he can better understand his lady love: “Be strong and expect hurdles [in the relationship] — it is normal. She will likely have a hard time changing her lifestyle, and it may take time. Give her time. Be patient. Be realistic. And be supportive. Ask her clearly what she wants. If there is mutual love between yourself and her, then don’t listen to the negative perspective of outsiders (whom clearly don’t understand that prostitutes are human like everyone else).”
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  7. This question actually made me laugh. No! I’d say the majority of escorts would laugh if a man assumed his ‘good looks’ would get him a better deal. Most escorts, such as myself, do not care about looks. An experienced courtesan knows very well that ‘good looks’ have no relevance to our livelihoods. A handsome client does not guarantee that he will be a good sexual lover, a good person or at best, generous. Qualities that I enjoy in clients are generosity, kindness, respect, hygienic, intellect and selflessness in sex (non-demanding) – such things cannot be compensated by superficial aesthetics alone. This reminded me a client who tried to book with me. He called me and made countless efforts to tell me how ‘handsome’ he was, and how ‘well-endowed’ he was in size. I just rolled my eyes and thought to myself, “You are probably the worst in sex considering you have to convince me of how apparently amazing you are.” I hung up, and refused to see him. Ladies beware: Any man who boasts excessively about his achievements or his ‘amazingness’ is to be avoided. Such men with big egos are usually masking HUGE insecurities and shortcomings. Thankfully, after years of encountering so many men, I know very well that: If it seems too good to be true, it is! Any man who proposes such a ‘larger than life’ offer has a dirty motive behind it, so please be wary of such things.
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  9. То есть получается 9 тыс дол расходы и приблизительно 7-10 тыс доходы. Это значит минус 50 процентов от заработка будут уходить на расходы в месяц и соответственно плюс 50 процентов прибыль. Если 3 клиента в день в среднем, то это $750 и минус 50 процентов расходы, то получается чистыми деньгами в день $375 в среднем. Это ОК если клиенты проверенные.
  10. Девочки, извините, если вопрос глупый или не в ту тему, но все же, очень он меня волнует. Особенно после прочтения большинства тем на форуме) Дело в том, что поначалу я очень долго не хотела даже рассматривать вариант работы в сфере проституции, даже сейчас это слово коробит, назовём эскорт) два года потратила на поиски спонсоров, это были именно поиски, жалкие попытки "развести" но в силу молодости и вообще неумения что-то просить, да плюс строгой позиции по поводу того, что "секс за деньги исключён", с такими предложениями посылала сразу, но и тех, кто хотел "отношений" тоже динамила, так как хотела свободы, это главное, в общем сама не знала, чего хочу и как получить, еле-еле хватало на жизнь помощи мне от таких "спонсоров",благо работать не приходилось и ладно. Но в один момент я просто переступила себя с поехала в первый раз за границу. Именно зарабатывать "сексом за деньги", которого так боялась. И в общем-то мне понравилось! НО решилась я на этот шаг после того, как твёрдо поняла, что меня просто тошнит от общения с мужчинами и попытками строить "отношения" пусть и на мат основе. В общем поняла, что жить на содержании я не смогу, т.к. Такие содержатели мозги делают похлеще "официальных" парней. По этой же причине не хочу замуж. Никогда в принципе. Кайфую от свободной жизни в одиночку, в принципе в мои планы не входят мужчины и дети. Но при этом хочу денег, много! Так чтобы и квартиры и машины и дома и приличное состояние. Вот вопрос- это реально в сфере эскорта в принципе? Есть такие примеры? Мне казалось, что в принципе все девочки именно по этим соображениям идут в эту профессию. Но читая сообщения вроде "как удачно выйти замуж?" Или "а чего ж вы в эскорте трудитесь, а не за олигархом замужем, раз такая умная?" Вот такие примерно посылы я наблюдала от девочек в других темах, и после этого опускаются руки и пропадает энтузиазм, потому как какой смысл работать в этой сфере(повторюсь, что морально мне это тяжело далось), если все равно не стать финансово независимой, даже не просто независимой, а богатой? Если все равно как все буду вынуждена искать мужика чтобы жить достойно?(( простите девочки за много букв, не ругайтесь и если у кого-то есть, что сказать, очень хочу послушать ваши мнения и опыт)))
  11. Hey girls maybe someone can explain me what is it?
  12. Make sure you take down the client info. Ask if he has seen an escort before. Check his personal information with the escort blacklist database
  13. Always tell someone where your going and what time you will finish.
  14. 1.Working for yourself benefits: You can keep all the money You pick the clients you work with You set your prices You can pick the days off 2.Working for yourself draw backs: You don't have as much protection as working for an agency You can get hurt if you don't screen the guy the right way You are alone with a stranger who you don't know You have to market yourself 3.Working for an agency Benefits: You have a team of people watching out for you at all times The men are screened before they get to you You don't have to market yourself, the company handles that for you You can meet other woman in the same field in the company that can offer you advice. 4.Working for an agency drawbacks. A part of the money is given to the agency You might be forced to work on days you don't want to You have a set boss and you must obey their rules
  15. Below you will discover how to be an escort, what it takes to be an escort and how to do a number of things while being an escort. Becoming an escort isn't an easy job. Like all jobs, it has its benefits and its drawbacks. The fact that it is a very personal kind of career can be a great thing and a bad thing at times. It takes a strong person to become an escort and to continue being an escort for years to come. You will discover the truth behind an escort. You will also get a number of tips and advice to help you in this journey. 1.Think it through. 6 Questions to ask yourself before you even start reading this. Am I ready to commit to being an escort? Do I enjoy the idea of being a companion to another and get paid for that? Will I tell my family and friends? Am I prepared for their reaction? Can I handle the emotional effects of being an escort? Am I going into this field for the money or for the fun? 2.Decide why you should become an escort. There are shows on cable that show these people getting paid a lot of money to do something they love doing and have no problem doing it. So what are the benefits? You may feel sexy. You get paid to be pampered. You pick the hours you work. Dating a man and have no strings attached. You get paid really good money. 3.Learn the Rules and Guidelines. When becoming an escort, the rules are about being safe and staying confident in your choice. Below you will find a selection of rules and guidelines that can help you when you start working. Safety is very important to both your body and for yourself. Make sure that you keep your body safe and also healthy. Money should never transfer actual hands. The money for the services is normally called a donation and should be placed somewhere discreetly inside the hotel room. Saying no is okay. Be prepared for somebody to be upset, when you say no, but also stay firm in your answer. It's okay to say so and ask that you not do it. Enjoy the person you are with. You shouldn't feel that you are cheating or betraying the man you might love simply because you spent unforgettable time with your client. 4.Have the right personality. Being an escort isn't for most people because most people want relationships for love or commitment. It is important to be able to divide your personal wants from your professional realities. Decide on what your limitations will be in terms of forming relationships, involving kissing, etc. Look deep inside and be honest with yourself as to your ability to handle this type of work. A role like this is more suitable for a strong individual who likes independence and distance from others, yet is able to communicate well and understand other's needs. 5.Research the escort agencies. Find reputable ones that are well run and can demonstrate to you that they put their employee's needs first and take good care of you. Check security arrangements. Check how they vet clients. Check the income earned. Check whether you click. This is a people business and you need to feel comfortable around the people you're working for, as well as with clients. If you decide to do this alone, realize that it will be a lot harder and possibly dangerous. 6.Ask the agency to run you through the basics of safety, client satisfaction, and protection against sexual diseases. Make sure you screen your client and check his info against a client blacklist database. Know what to do if a client turns violent or asks you to do things you don't want to. Know how to demand and ensure that protection is worn. Know the etiquette of not discussing clients with other clients or anyone else. Also, don't try to pry into your client's private life; leave all of that well alone. Learn to be patient and not poach other people's clients.
  16. Any experience about work with this escort agency from London?
  17. they have own black list for advertisers?